Bad Bitches: Where is it Written?

Is dignity extinct?  Is it so terrible to be respectful?  Of course, we are all familiar with the phrase, “All men are dogs.”  That statement simply isn't true.  Not all men are “wanna be players”, and not all men objectify women.  It takes a sophisticated man to treat a woman with respect.  What about the titles given to women?  The term bad bitch has become synonymous with good-looking women.  Some women feel admired when men call them bad bitch.  The trouble that I have with that phrase?  My problem with the phrase bad bitch is that it sounds like a term for someone that has no respect for women.  Whatever happened to the days when women had enough self-respect to not let any man disregard them?

Personally, I don’t like being called a bitch.  One day, I asked one of my guy friends, “What is a bad bitch supposed to mean?”  He told me that it means a pretty woman.  Seriously?  So my friend furthered his answer and said, “You would be considered a bad bitch.”  At first I was flattered because that’s not the first time that I have been called a bad bitch; however, when my friend and I talked, I realized that the phrase was politically incorrect.  It seems as though no matter what we do, women will always be some kind of bitch.  If we’re evil, we’re a bitch.  If we’re gorgeous, we’re a bad bitch.  Where is it written?

I can remember growing up, and when a guy thought I was pretty, he did something out of the “ordinary”.  He did something that the generation of today wouldn't think imaginable.  Guess what he would say?  He would just say that I was…PRETTY.  That’s it!  I wasn't a bitch.  I was pretty.  What happened to this society?  What happened to guys treating women with respect by not calling us out of our names?  When did I become a bad bitch?  Recently, a young guy called me a bad bitch.  I didn't know what to say.  I think I said, “Why am I a bitch.”  Obviously, I knew that it was his way of complimenting me, but there’s no need for that type of compliment.

Everyone blames rap music for this type of behavior.  I can’t really say that I don’t blame rap music.  Many rappers use the term bad bitch to mean gorgeous women with long hair (usually a weave) and a big behind.  Okay, there’s nothing wrong with looking this way, but why exploit these women?  Why?  Not to mention that they’re being called bad bitch in these rap songs.  It’s truly unimaginable.  Where’s the respect?

Of course, men are not the only people to blame here.  There are many women that are seriously fine with men calling them out of their name.  Why is that?  If it’s for a rap video, they probably accept this behavior because they’re getting paid for it.  In my opinion, that is so pathetic.  So it’s okay to disrespect me if you’re paying me?  In what world is that ever acceptable?  Is your self-esteem that low?  Women need to stand up and tell these guys that they are not bitches, and then maybe someone will take notice.  Get it together girl, and attain some self-respect.

“Bad bitch” is a terrible phrase made up by someone who is ignorant.  I don’t care who the female is; she deserves to be respected.  The one thing that I don’t understand is that if you’re a man with a mother, sister, daughter, wife, girlfriend, or female friends, how can you subject yourself to such crude behavior?  It’s time for an overhaul in manners for the men and an overhaul in dignity for women.  Let’s be smarter in what we say and do.  There’s no need to sell your soul.







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For the Love of Spending Money

Why do we love to spend money?  Is it because we're trying to impress other people, or are we just trying to stay in the race with those that like to spend money?  Some of us spend money on items that we truly cannot afford.   Spending money is not always for the right reasons so it's best to manage finances carefully, and think about how you’re spending your money.

If you are someone that likes to buy clothes to keep up with the latest trends then there are probably tons of clothes at your house.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with following trends, especially if you can afford to do so.  When we see a “celebrity”, for example, wearing something that we find appealing, it is only natural that we would want to buy it for ourselves.  The problem with that?  Often times those items that these “celebrities” wear are usually out of our price range.  Spending $5,000 on a pair of pants is usually not in the average person’s budget.  Clothing is important for human consumption, but mortgaging off your house just to afford a $5,000 pair of pants is preposterous!

Let’s talk about automobiles for a minute.  If you can only afford a Chevy Cruze for $17,520, that is actually a very affordable and sufficient vehicle.  Why would you buy a Bugatti Veyron Super Sports for $2,400,000 and have to finance it?  How long do you expect to be paying for this Bugatti?  Maybe your great grandchildren can pay it off when you are long gone from this earth.  Oh please!  Enjoying your money is the way of the world.  Who doesn't enjoy spending money on those precious items that you will always enjoy?  It makes you feel good to make special purchases, especially when you can afford it.  On the other hand, going into debt can make you feel “sick to your stomach” when you KNOW that you can’t afford the items that you've purchased.  Why go broke to live like the Trumps?  Donald Trump has obviously earned his wealth through his achievements.  Evidently, he can enjoy the riches that he has created for himself because Mr. Trump can afford to do that.  What about you?  Was it worth paying for a Bugatti to impress people who couldn't care less about you otherwise? 

Self-esteem plays a major part in spending numerous amounts of money.  Sometimes, when someone spends money that they can’t afford to spend, it means that they feel a need to be accepted.  Wanting to be accepted is a part of life so getting others to accept you is usual behavior; however, it’s not particularly healthy behavior.  Buying expensive items are fine, but it’s not worth going broke to gratify the crowd.

Before making extravagant purchases, think about this:

• Is it worth being broke?
• Did you pay your bills late for this purchase?
• Are you trying to impress your friends?
• Will you NOT be able to afford groceries?
• Is your bank account going to be overdrawn?

If the answer to these questions is ABSOLUTELY, then maybe you should save your money this time, and wait until you can afford to buy those things that you would enjoy.  There’s nothing worse than having on $500 Gucci shoes at the welfare office.  Let’s be mindful about our spending habits.  It’s definitely for your benefit.