Okay, maybe you like to stay positive. You want to trust that your husband will have everything under control, but when you ask him one last time about the diminishing funds, he finally breaks down to tell you that he lost his job…SIX MONTHS AGO! This is a conversation that should have happened six months ago and not after the evaporating money. Did pride keep her husband from being honest? Was it selfishness? Maybe he felt that you couldn’t handle it because he’s supposed to be the provider of the family. It is hard sometimes when you have to tell the truth. No one likes to hear harsh truth, but once the other party is aware of your situation, you can figure out a solution.
To some women, it would appear that this husband was being
selfish for keeping his wife out of the loop.
After all, she did lose her job and hoped her husband could pick up the
slack. If she knew he had lost his job six
month ago, it is possible that she could have possibly helped her husband find
a new job or even cut back on spending.
Either way, he should have just told her the truth. Would that have helped his wife to know the
truth? Is her husband selfish or was he
protecting her? Pride is definitely a
factor in this situation.
Women like to be told the truth even if it hurts. Since her husband wasn't honest with her this
left several unanswered questions: was
he cheating on her, was he gambling, did he get involved with illegal
business. When our men don't tell us the truth it’s unfathomable. With both
of them out of work who is going to step up and handle matters? This should have been worked out six months
ago, but it is never too late to fix a situation such as this one.
Are men really selfish?
Sometimes men seem selfish because they keep from us that which we feel
we need to know. The question is, “Do we
really need to know everything?” The
situation above was an unfortunate scenario that happens all the time, and the
husband should have informed his wife about what was going on; however, there
are situations that are a lot worse and a lot more detrimental. Men probably don’t tell us everything because
they think we’ll make their problems much worse. Men like to be in charge of handling their
own complications. Women, by nature, are
emotional and are nurturers. Of course,
we are going to want to fix the problem.
Some men prefer that their women leave most problems alone only to let
them handle it. In this case, men
shouldn’t appear selfish. This would
make him a protector. The husband above
didn’t tell his wife because she would have panicked and he would have felt
worse. Keeping secrets wasn’t good
either though. Well, we should
understand that sometimes protecting can hurt and being selfish hurts as
well. Keeping secrets can be looked at
as selfish so instead of omitting what needs to be addressed, just tell the
person what they need to know.